Module 12

Responsive Parenting Self-Assessment

Honest check-in on how well you're reading and responding to your child's cues

Score each item: 0 = Rarely, 1 = Sometimes, 2 = Often, 3 = Almost Always. Higher scores indicate stronger responsive parenting.

I can tell the difference between my child's types of cries or distress signals

I notice when my child's mood shifts before it escalates to a meltdown

I pay attention to my child's body language, not just their words

I can distinguish between a child who needs comfort and one who needs space

I notice when my child is overstimulated and needs a change of environment

I validate my child's feelings before trying to fix the problem

I stay calm when my child is having a big emotion (most of the time)

I name emotions for my child ('You seem frustrated' vs. 'Stop crying')

I allow my child to feel negative emotions without rushing to cheer them up

I share my own emotions appropriately ('I'm feeling overwhelmed right now')

I give my child at least 10 minutes of undivided attention daily (no phone)

When my child talks to me, I stop what I'm doing and make eye contact

I follow my child's lead in play rather than directing the activity

I'm physically present and emotionally available during routines (meals, bedtime)

I notice my child's bids for connection and respond to them (not just their demands)

When I lose my temper, I come back and apologize sincerely

I adjust my parenting approach based on what's working, not what 'should' work

I recognize when my response is about my stress, not my child's behavior

I can let go of a parenting strategy that isn't serving my child

I'm open to feedback from my partner, child, or others about my parenting

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